Soundings: An Open Harbor Blog
For the thoughts that don't fit neatly into a session note, a consultation call, or a research paper, this is where they go: reflections on mental health, faith, pop-culture, and the things I'm still working out. Some are clinical, some personal, some just me thinking out loud.
Before the Dam Breaks
Pastors need help before pressure becomes a crisis, and churches need accountability before harmful behavior spreads. A reflection on healthier leadership systems and protecting people downstream.
When No One Can Tell the Pastor No
A pastor who is struggling may need help. A pastor who is causing harm needs accountability. Sometimes the same pastor needs both.
When Faith Language Becomes a Cage
Faith language can be true and still be used abusively. Part Two of a Soundings series on spiritual abuse, pastoral power, and accountability.
When Care Becomes Control
Pastoral care can be deeply healing. But when one person controls the spiritual meaning, mental-health narrative, and access to help, care can become control.
Does Your Attachment Style Shape Your Relationship With God?
A new book argues the church should resist “therapy culture.” It has a real point and a real blind spot. On attachment, God, and why faith and mental health shouldn’t be enemies.
Deconstruction Isn't a Crisis. It's a Process.
The word "deconstruction" gets used as both an insult and a badge. Here's what it actually is, why it feels like a crisis when it usually isn't, and why it's often the first time faith becomes truly yours.
The Real Origin of Spider-Man Is Grief
With a new movie in theaters and the 1,000th issue on the way, it's a good moment to say why this hero has lasted more than sixty years. The secret isn't the powers. It's the person underneath them.
The Wound Wrapped in the Sacred
Ryan Stollar spent his life helping people name religious and spiritual abuse, the harm that comes wrapped in the sacred. What that wound is, why it hides, and why it still needs naming.